How To Survive Living With Your Parents In Your Twenties
Living with your parents in your twenties is the new normal. In our childhood it was depicted as the ultimate humiliation, reserved only for comic losers (think Nick skulking about the house in My Family, and Wayne messing around in his parent’s basement in Wayne’s World). Now, with the help of rising rent costs and low starting salaries across the UK (like srsly do they not know how much avocados are?) 1 in 4 of 20-34 year olds still live in their family home.Luckily for you, I’ve had a fair amount of experience in this department (YAY) so I’ve put together a list of my top tips to help you on your journey to harmonious cohabitation...
Regularly make dinner for your parents
Your parents are (hopefully) sharing their weekly food shop with you. You should revel in this luxury. In the foreseeable future you may be living off the Sainsbury’s Basics range and crumbling stock cubes on toast for a light snack. In the meantime show your parents that you appreciate being provided with a full fridge by making them dinner at least a couple of times a week – oh and don’t make them something basic like pesto pasta.
Don’t regress into old familial habits
This is such an easy mistake to make when moving back in with your parents, but it’s a big hole to fall into and can have a bad effect on your mental health. Just as your parents no longer wipe your ass, they should also no longer be doing your laundry, or hoovering your room, or changing your sheets etc. You’re older now, and by doing these things for yourself you can keep hold of a bit of independence and stop yourself from feeling like you’ve regressed to childhood.
Join a dating app
Don’t get into a rut of spending Monday nights (and Tuesdays, and Wednesdays, and Thursdays, and Fridays) sitting on the sofa watching Silent Witness re-runs with your Mum. Put an end to the monotony by joining a dating app like Badoo. You can entertain yourself with swiping in the evenings, and find yourself a guy with his own flat (where you can and will frequently overstay your welcome when you can’t face going home).
Put yourself in your parents’ shoes
You may be grumpy that you’re living at home. But think of things from their perspective. They didn’t predict the housing crisis when they had you twenty-something years ago, and had probably plotted 2018 to be one of a myriad of raucous golden years, with you most definitely no longer in the house. With this in mind, be considerate.
Get close to your Mum
If you haven’t’ yet broken out of the confines of the parent-child relationship – now’s your chance. You may not live up to the greats, Lorelai and Rory (The Gilmore Girls), Donna and Sophie (Mamma Mia), but you can give it a shot, and you might learn some fun facts along the way. I discovered that my Mum went on a motorcycle tour of Europe with a shaggy haired, wild-spirited boyfriend in her gap year...quite cool? (If you were thinking I've gone off topic, rest assured. Getting close with your Mum will, unsurprisingly, make living with her much easier).
Avoid judgement by getting in a good sleeping pattern
This is pretty self-explanatory, unless you want your Mum and Dad to emit loud sighs when you stumble into the kitchen for your morning cup of tea at 12:36pm on a Saturday. (I mostly just put up with the passive aggressive sighs and go about my significantly shortened day, but maybe you can try harder).
Avoid questions about your future by being out as much as possible
Whilst living at home, feelings of inadequacy are heightened by seemingly endless questions from your parents concerning your efforts, or lack thereof, to advance your career. The solution to this is to be out as much as possible. See your friends. Plan weekends away. Go on a date with that guy from Badoo you came across whilst watching Silent Witness with your Mum. Have drinks with colleagues after work. See anyone, and do anything to avoid being at home to hear those questions.
Most importantly of all - be grateful
Remember - what you feel you may be losing in independence, you’re gaining in savings for future rent money (and asos purchases, and pub money etc. etc), and you're guaranteed to miss the safety and comfort of home once you're going at it by yourself...